Betty Jane Grigor

March 16, 1923 ~ June 6, 2022 (age 99)


Betty Jane (Patty) Grigor

March 16, 1923 – June 6, 2022 | Resided in Tulsa, OK

Betty passed away peacefully in her sleep in the middle of the night on June 6, 2022, as was her requested way of passing in her recent prayers. She resided at Town Village, in Tulsa, OK.

Betty was born in a Bristow, Oklahoma farmhouse and traveled from there with her family in early childhood until finally settling in Sapulpa, Oklahoma. There she attended school which was interrupted by a serious incident of typhoid fever. After she recovered, Betty went on to graduate from Sapulpa High School as an honor student.

Tough economic conditions during her early teenage years motivated Betty to take on several jobs while attending school to help support herself and her family. Betty developed strength and resilience working as a caretaker, retail assistant, and became a semi-professional singer as part of the Patty Sisters Quartet making commercials for radio and singing at church and other events.

After high school, she married Gerald Grigor her high school sweetheart. After Gerald returned from the military during WWII, they moved to Stillwater, Oklahoma where he played football and finished school at Oklahoma A&M. Betty and Gerald moved back to Tulsa after Gerald’s graduation and the birth of their first son, Jon Roger.

Betty worked at various part time jobs and was a noted riveter at Spartan Aircraft in Tulsa. After establishing Tulsa as their home, the Grigors had their second son, Randal Mack. Betty focused on contributing to the community as well as her employment by volunteering as a Cub Scout leader, Sunday School Teacher, and a church choir member. She worked as a machine shop assistant and a retail Sales Professional until both boys graduated from college.

After becoming grandparents in 1972, Betty and Gerald had some treasured trips together on cruises, to bowl games, and other enjoyable locations before Gerald developed cancer and passed away abruptly in 1980. It was a challenge for Betty to carry on after this hurtful and unexpected loss; but carry on she did, relying on her ability to persevere, which she had developed throughout her life.

Betty supported herself as a productive retail sales professional in Sapulpa and Tulsa over the next few years while beginning a 35-year service position as a regular volunteer, Pink Lady, at St. Francis Hospital in Tulsa. She surprised many with her resilience while developing her skill as a talented artist. Several of her paintings are displayed in various locations and are treasured in her family members’ homes today.

Betty met the other love in her life, Ben Wright, as she became reacquainted with her and Gerald’s good friends from Sapulpa High School; Ben became a steady “family” companion to her family for seventeen years and traveled all over the world with Betty on some wonderful adventures. Betty and Ben also became regular fans to grandkid’s activities and sporting events and were the foundation of family gatherings and reunions. They loved her dog, Timmie, for several years and treasured his companionship.

After Ben passed away, Betty continued to reside in Tulsa volunteering at First United Methodist Church and St. Francis Hospital. Betty was honored as Volunteer of the Year by FUMC and recognized as a distinguished volunteer at St Francis for her devoted service of over 30 years.

Betty is known by most as a strong-willed person that has an unusual and mystic quality of making people love her despite differences of opinion. She paved her path with service to others in quiet ways, unknown to many. Betty was a valued friend to many who were friendless. She served as a private hospice caretaker to neighbors and supported many charities anonymously. Her ability to develop relationships with others is personified by the extreme loss felt by her thoughtful caregivers in her last days with us.

Betty leaves behind a loving family who will miss her dearly as she was such an important part of their everyday lives, as her family was, undoubtedly, the most important part of her life. Betty described her family as the “real jewels in my jewelry box”.

Betty was preceded in death by her loving husband of 36 years, Gerald Grigor, father of their sons. After becoming a widow, she spent many years in ‘family fellowship’ with her best friend, the late Ben Wright, of Sapulpa. Betty’s grandchildren called him “Papa”, her parents, Harry and Grace Patty, of Sapulpa, and six siblings, Opal, Raymond, Jack, Esther, Rachel and Harry. Brothers Jack Patty and Harry Patty had close ties with Betty in the Tulsa area, as did her closest friend and sister, Esther Bray of Sapulpa. Betty is survived by a sister, Ella Smith in California, and a brother, Ron Patty, in Anderson, Indiana. She was also lovingly adored by several nieces, nephews, and extended family.

Betty is survived by two sons: Jon Roger Grigor and wife Donna Grigor of Tulsa, OK; Randal Grigor and wife Cindy Grigor of Beggs, OK. Six grandchildren: Scott Grigor and wife Betsy Grigor of Mechanicsburg, PA, Brian Grigor and wife Esther Grigor of Bixby, OK, Kristin Hudson and husband Bryan Hudson of Beggs, OK, Trisha McGregor and husband Dane McGregor of Denver, CO, Gerod Grigor and wife Kerri Grigor of Norman, OK and Alyssa Grigor of Broken Bow, OK. Eleven great grandchildren: Lynley Hudson, Josh Grigor, Libby Hudson, Grace Grigor, Grant Grigor, Laney Hudson, Avery Grigor, Jovie Grigor, Emma Grigor, Tavin McGregor and Jane Grigor.

As a family, we know her reunion with the saints in heaven will be as precious as she truly believed!

Memorial service for family and friends is Friday, June 17, 2022 at 11:00 am; Green Hill Cemetery Chapel, 400 E. Teal Rd. Sapulpa, OK.  

Under the direction of Smith Funeral Home, Sapulpa, OK 74066



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June 17, 2022

11:00 AM to 12:00 PM
Green Hill Memorial Gardens
400 E. Teel Rd
Sapulpa, OK 74066

June 17, 2022

12:00 PM
Green Hill Memorial Gardens
400 E. Teel Rd
Sapulpa, OK 74066

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